Child Training and Psychology
How to explain or talk to the child ??
The child has made a mistake for the first time. Do
n’t react, but act.
Often our attitude towards children is what we might call a reaction to children’s actions or words.
Disadvantages
1. Our attitude is negative, that is, we criticize. Don’t do this, don’t do that, don’t do that, don’t go there, negative sentences and criticism.
2. The children decide which instructions we will give and which ones we will talk about. A lot of training is left to be said because we don’t tell unless the child is doing something wrong.
If you want to
follow
If a child is doing something wrong at some point, it is best to ignore it, change the subject, express resentment with your body language, or hold it gently to stop it. Give Don’t react harshly. Physically you have to stop again and again. You have to stop even 10 times. Patience is a must. The reward for this patience will come in the form of the child refraining from this action for the rest of his life.
Make
a note of this or that action or gestures at a suitable time (baby’s mood and your mood is pleasant) and explain it alone. Explain the reason, the principle, why the thing or action is wrong.
How to talk to a child so that they can decide for themselves what is right or wrong based on this principle
First of all, keep in mind that the purpose of everything we say or do should be to please God. So tell me about the wrong deed or thing that Allah will be angry with it. And Allah Almighty and the parents will be happy with the right action.
Then tell the child what is the right action or thing and how to do it. Practice doing the right thing by pretending to do the right thing, etc. Call the
child’s movement or speech wrong, don’t
compare the child’s caste, child’s speech or action with any other child.
Talk about rubbing salt in my wounds – d’oh!
The meaning should be according to the child’s mental level.
The words should be part of the
child ‘s vocabulary. The child should be attracted to you.
Both you and the child should not be under the influence of any intense emotion. Anger, grief, depression, etc.
You and the child should be physically face to face. Be on the same level
Respect the child’s feelings and emotions.
Talk to your child in private or alone
. Teach ethics in advance through storytelling as well.
Refrain from lecturing and explaining all the time.